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Date to Marry and Shaadi.com
The difference is not how seriously marriage is taken. Both take it completely seriously. The difference is who is doing the choosing, and what gets written down about you.
The short answer
Shaadi is built for a family-led arranged marriage and is the largest platform in the world doing it. Date to Marry is for the person choosing for themselves: no caste field, no gotra, no horoscope matching, no income column, and the profile belongs to the member rather than to a parent. Same seriousness, a different process.
What we are not saying
We are not saying arranged marriage does not work. It plainly does, for very large numbers of people, and a European company explaining South Asian families to themselves would be both rude and wrong. Many arranged marriages are happier than many love marriages, and the involvement of people who have known you your whole life is a genuine advantage rather than a quaint survival.
What we are saying is narrower: some people want the seriousness of that process while making the choice themselves. Until recently the options were a matrimony site that assumed the family was driving, or a Western dating app that assumed nobody was going anywhere. This is for the person in between.
Side by side
Several rows are differences in kind rather than quality — marked as neither better nor worse.
| Date to Marry | Shaadi.com | |
|---|---|---|
| Who runs the search | You | Frequently the family |
| Caste, community, gotra | No such fields | Central to the profile and to filtering |
| Horoscope / kundali | None | Offered and widely used |
| Income and salary fields | None. Household finances asked as an approach, not a number | Standard |
| Community size | New — launched September 2026 | The largest matrimony platform in the world |
| How you meet someone | One person at a time, with a written reason | Search and filter a large database |
| Verification | Government ID, required before anyone is matched | Varies by tier |
| After you match | Journal, gestures, date nights, milestones, check-ins | Contact exchange |
The fields we do not have, and why
No caste, no community, no gotra
Not an oversight and not a statement about anyone's family. We do not think a person is well described by it, and a field that exists gets filtered on.
No income column
Money is asked about as an approach — one pot, joint for shared costs, mostly separate — because how two people would run a household predicts a marriage. A salary figure predicts a negotiation.
No horoscope matching
We do not offer kundali or guna matching. If that matters to you or your family, this platform will not provide it, and we would rather be clear than approximate it.
The profile is yours
Not created or managed by a parent. Your answers, your matches, your decisions — and you can involve your family whenever you choose, on your terms rather than as the default.
And what comes after
A matrimony site's job ends at contact exchange. Most of ours starts there: a private journal for what you are learning about them, daily suggestions drawn from their own words, questions worth asking over dinner, milestones, private monthly check-ins. A counsellor directory and a mentor community are being built and are not open yet. What happens after the match.
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A love marriage, chosen with the same seriousness.
One payment of €249 when you join, never a subscription. €210 comes back if we do not bring you a relationship within a year.
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What is the difference between Date to Marry and Shaadi.com?
Who runs the search. Shaadi is built around a family-led arranged marriage: profiles are frequently created and managed by parents, and the fields reflect that — caste, community, gotra and horoscope. Date to Marry is built for an individual choosing for themselves. There is no caste field, no gotra, no horoscope matching and no biodata format, and the profile belongs to the member.
Is Date to Marry a matrimonial site?
It shares matrimony’s seriousness — everyone declares marriage as the goal, and the questions that decide one are asked before you meet. It does not share its structure: no family-managed profiles, no caste or income columns, and no proposals sent between families.
Does Date to Marry do horoscope or kundali matching?
No. Compatibility is weighed on faith, children, location, marriage timeline, household finances, character answers and how you handle conflict. If astrology matters to you or your family, this is not the platform that will provide it, and we would rather say so than pretend.
Can I still involve my family?
Of course, and many members do — on their own terms and at the point they choose. The difference is that the account, the answers and the decisions are yours. Nobody else writes your profile or receives your matches.
