For traditional marriage
Marriage as something you build, not something you try.
Permanent by intention. A home, and probably children in it. Faith at the centre, or not, but decided rather than avoided. If that is the thing you are actually looking for, most dating products are not built for you — and this one was built for nothing else.
The short answer
Everyone here has stated marriage as the goal. Intake asks the five questions that actually decide one — children, faith, where you will live, when you want to marry, and how you would run a household financially — and several of them are absolute rules the matching will not break. You are then introduced to one person at a time, with the reasons written out.
What members mean by the word
People arrive at this phrase from very different places. Some mean a covenant before God. Some mean what their grandparents had and their parents did not. Some mean children, a home, and one person for the whole of it. Some simply mean that they intend this to be permanent and would like to stop pretending otherwise on a first date.
What the versions share is a direction of travel. Marriage is not the experiment; it is the thing the experimenting was for. And a relationship understood that way asks different questions, earlier, than one that is seeing where it goes.
What we will not do
We have no view on who earns, who cooks, who stays home with a newborn, or how a household should be arranged. There is no field on the profile that assigns anyone a role, and there never will be. Those are yours to settle between the two of you.
What we can do is make sure you have both said it out loud, in writing, before either of you is attached to someone who assumed the opposite. Almost every marriage that fails on this failed because it was never actually discussed — not because the two people wanted different things, but because neither found out in time.
What gets asked, and when
Children — and when
Within a year, in two to three, open but uncertain, or not at all. This is one of the absolutes: the matching will not pair two people whose answers cannot both come true.
Faith, and how much of it
Whether shared faith is essential, very important, respected, or personal — and which tradition. "Essential" is treated as essential, not as a preference something else can outweigh.
Where the life happens
Whether you would move for the right person or are rooted where you are. Two people who are both rooted, far apart, are not a match however well everything else reads.
The timeline
Six months to a year, one to two, two to three, or longer. Wanting the same thing at different speeds is one of the most common ways a serious relationship quietly fails.
Money, in a household
One pot, joint for shared costs, mostly separate with shared goals, or open to working it out. Asked at intake because it is a leading cause of divorce and nobody raises it on date three.
And then, in your own words
Written prompts on parenting philosophy, financial partnership, what an ordinary evening looks like to you, and what you need from someone when things are hard. A person's actual vision of a home shows up in that last one more reliably than in any dropdown.
The part almost nobody builds
If marriage is the goal rather than the experiment, then an app that stops at the introduction has done the easy tenth of the work. Most of this one is built for afterwards: a private journal for what you are learning about the person, daily gesture ideas drawn from their own words, date-night questions, milestones, a monthly private reflection, a mentor community. A counsellor directory and a mentor community are being built and are not open yet. Read what happens after the match.
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One payment of €249 when you join, never a subscription. €210 comes back if we do not bring you a relationship within a year.
Get the appQuestions
Is there a dating app for people who want a traditional marriage?
Date to Marry is built for it. Everyone here has stated marriage as their goal, and intake asks what marriage actually means to you in practice: children, faith, where you will live, when you want to marry and how you would run a household financially. Several of those answers are absolute in the matching, so a fundamental mismatch never becomes an introduction.
Does the app decide what roles a husband and wife should have?
No, and it never will. We have no view on who earns, who cooks or who stays home, and there is no field on the profile that assigns anyone a role. What the app does is make sure the two of you have said what you want out loud, in writing, before either of you is attached.
What does the app actually match on?
Five things asked directly at intake — children, faith, location, marriage timeline and approach to household finances — plus written answers to prompts covering parenting philosophy, financial partnership, what an ordinary evening looks like to you, and what you need from someone when life is hard. Character and values, not photographs.
Do I have to be religious?
No. Faith is asked about directly rather than assumed, because for some members it is the centre of the marriage and for others it is not. Both answers are honest answers, and the matching treats "we must share a faith" as an absolute for the people who said it.
