Guides

Short, practical, and about the decisions rather than the buttons. If a guide here only helps you operate the app, it should not exist.

• How to answer the intake questions

  Eight minutes of questions that decide who you meet. What each one is really asking, and why a flattering answer costs you the thing you came for.

• The first date, when marriage is the point

  What to arrange, what to ask, and the two questions worth getting to before you decide about a second one.

• Talking about timelines without frightening anyone

  Both of you already declared one. Here is how to have the conversation that follows from that, early, without it becoming an interview.